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Custody for Fathers Table of Contents


INTRODUCTION
  1. WINNING
  2. THE FAMILY LAW SYSTEM
  3. LEARN THE COURTHOUSE
  4. BASIC STRATEGIES & TACTICS
  5. MEDIATION IN A NUTSHELL
  6. CONDUCT IN MEDIATION
  7. ACTION IN THE COURTROOM
  8. COURT HEARING EXPLAINED
  9. HANDLING YOURSELF IN COURT
  10. THE JUDGE
  11. TESTIMONY
  12. MASTER SKILLS OF TESTIFYING
  13. MOM’S – DIRTY TRICKS
  14. FAMILY DISINTEGRATION
  15. LEGALESE
  16. REFORMS NEEDED
  17. FINDING THE RIGHT ATTORNEY

    INTRODUCTION

    20 – 28

       

    1.          WINNING

    29 – 32

                 Gamesmanship

    30

                 The Game Plan

    31

      » back

    2.         THE FAMILY LAW SYSTEM

    33 -41

                  Understandable Comparison

    34

                  Three Simple Term

    36

                             Codes

    37

                             Rules

    38

                             Policies

    39

                  Overview of Terms

    40

                  Legalese Can Overwhelm

    41

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    3.          LEARN THE COURTHOUSE

    42 – 51

                   Fieldtrips to the Courthouse

    44

                   Pieces to the Puzzle

    44

                              The Facilities

    44

                              The Clerk’s Office

    45

                              The Form Window

    45

                              The File Room

    45

                              The Mediation Office

    45

                  Custody Stays In One Court

    46

                  Courtroom Specialization

    47

                  Calendaring Format

    49

                  Morning Action

    51

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    4.           BASIC STRATEGIES & TACTICS

    52 – 77

                   Fundamental

    53

                   Minor Error Lose Games

    54

                   Sound Appearance

    56

                   No Whining

    57

                   Physical, Mental, Emotional Readiness

    58

                   Get Out Of The Legal System Fast

    60

                   When You Get Stuck – Stop Everything

    62

                   Change Your Thought Process

    64

                   Avoid Common Blunders

    66

                   Record your  Strength

    68

                   Exploit Mom’s Weakness

    69

                   Get Child Support From Mom

    70

                   Keep Good Records

    71

                             Diary

    71

                             Writing

    71

                             Photograph

    72

                             Video / Tape Recording

    72

                             Colored Flip Charts

    72

                   Sex/ Drugs

    73

                   Police Reports

    75

                   Contempt

    77

                   Criminal Acts

    78

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    5.          MEDIATION IN A NUTSHELL

    78 – 100

                   Mediator’s Role

    79

                   Mediation Process

    8

                   Standard Visitation Guidelines

    82

                   Mediation Helps

    86

                   Traditional Mom Bias

    86

                   Counseling Appointed Evaluation

    89

                   Psychological Testing

    93

                   Shrink Counseling

    94

                            Counselors

    94

                            Mediators

    95

                            Evaluators

    95

                            Children’s Therapist

    96

                   Best Interest of the Children

    97

                   Overview of Mediation

    98

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    6.            CONDUCT IN MEDIATION

    101 – 121

                   Basic Courtesies

    103

                   The Key Is To Be Low Key

    104

                   Objective In Mediation

    105

                   10 – Minutes Presentation

    107

                   Beginning The Dialogue

    107

                             Dad Starts – Mom Interrupts

    108

                             Dad Starts – No Interruption

    109

                             Mom Starts- Dad Interrupts

    110

                             Mom Starts – No Interruption

    110

                   Documents Presented In Mediation

    111

                   Fighting Fire With Fire

    112

                   Terminology and Phraseology

    113

                   Compromising in Mediation

    119

                   The Night Before Mediation

    120

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    7.            ACTION IN THE COURTROOM

    122 – 127

                   Mediation / Hearing Timeline

    123

                   The Courtroom

    124

                   Pigeonhole

    125

                   Effective Participation

    126

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    8.            COURT HEARING EXPLAINED

    128 – 147

                   Pre – Trials

    130

                             Pendente Lite

    131

                             Preserve Status Quo

    131

                             Get In Right Pigeonhole

    132

                   Multiple pre-Trials

    132

                   Settlement Conferences Before Trials

    133

                   The Trial

    134

                   Paternity Trial

    136

                   Procedure Of A Trial

    136

                   Trial Brief

    137

                   Post – Trial

    138

                            Change of Circumstance

    138

                   Ex Parte Hearing

    140

                   Order of Battle

    141

                   Case in Chief

    142

                   Overview of Case In Chief

    145

                   Ultimate Decision

    147

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    9.            HANDLING YOURSELF IN COURT

    148-167

                   Basic Do’s And Don’t

    149

                   Question And Answer Formatswer Format

    152

                   Use Court Time Wisely

    153

                   Major Problem First

    154

                   Timing Your Punches

    154

                   Image Management

    157

                            Dressing For Court

    158

                            Honesty And Credibility

    159

                            Converse Visually

    160

                            Eye Contact

    161

                            Effective Body Language

    162

                            Inappropriate Behavior

    164

                            10 – Minute Speech

    165

                   Sell Yourself

    167

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    10.           THE JUDGE

    168- 187

                    Judicial Demeanor

    170

                    Judicial Power

    171

                    Referee In A Black Robe

    172

                    Theatrics Viewed By A Judge

    174

                    Judicial Bias

    176

                    Questionable Testimony

    178

                    Traits Common To All Judges

    179

                    Individuals Judges

    183

                                 Type “A” Personality

    184

                                 Type “B” Personality

    184

                    The Ultimate Decider

    187

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    11.           TESTIMONY

    188 – 206

                    Gamesmanship in Court

    190

                                 Be Credible -  Look Credible

    191

                                 Nonverbal Behavior

    192

                    Testimony in Court

    194

                                 Direct Testimony

    195

                                 Cross-Examination Testimony

    196

                                 Redirect Testimony

    197

                                 Relevant Testimony

    197

                    Admissible/inadmissible Evidence

    198

                                 Written Documents

    201

                                 Hearsay Rule

    203

                                 Character Witnesses

    203

                                 Impeachment Witnesses

    204

                                 Credible Witnesses

    204

                    A Judges’ “Lie” Question

    206

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    12.           MASTER SKILLS OF TESTIFYING

    207 – 226

                    Truthfulness

    209

                    Project Honesty

    210

                    Linguistic Techniques

    211

                            Choice of Words

    212

                            Body Language

    213

                            Tone Of Voice

    214

                            2 – Second Pause

    215

                            The long Pause

    216

                            Voice Inflection

    217

                            Stop When Ahead

    220

                            Open-Ended Speech

    221

                    Anticipate Problems

    222

                    Drama Award Performances

    223

                    Engaging The Enemy

    225

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    13.           MOM’S – DIRTY TRICKS

    227 – 242

                    Dirty Tricks – Counter Maneuvers

    229

                                 Mom Frustrates Dad’s Contact

    230

                                 Mom Denies Dad All Contact

    231

                                 Mom Says, No Money, No Contact

    232

                                 Mom Brainwashes Children

    233

                                 Mom Pushes Dad’s “Hot Buttons”

    234

                                 Mom Sabotages Counseling

    234

                                 Mom Uses Support For Herself

    235

                                 Mom Neglects Children

    236

                                 Mom commits Welfare Fraud

    237

                                 Mom Abuses Children

    238

                                 Mom Files Criminal Charges

    239

                                 Mom Gets A Spy

    240

                    Guerilla Warfare

    241

                    Rope – A – Dope

    242

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    14.           FAMILY DISINTEGRATION

    243 – 255

                    Fatherless ness

    245

                    Children At Risk

    246

                    Dad’s Well – Being

    247

                    Backup Team Support

    249

                                 Father Support Groups

    249

                                 Female Confidants

    250

                                 Attorney And Staff

    250

                                 Therapist And Counselors

    251

                                 Clergy

    251

                    Needless Childhood Anguish

    252

                    Children’s Rights

    255

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    15.           LEGALESE

    256-267

                    Joint Legal Custodygal Custody

    258

                    Sole Legal Custody

    259

                    Physical Custody

    259

                    Regular Time Periods

    260

                    Unconventional Time Periods

    261

                    School Vacation

    262

                                 Year Round Schedule

    262

                                 9 Month Schedule

    262

                    Holidays

    264

                                 Christmas

    264

                                 Thanksgiving

    265

                                 Easter

    265

                                 July 4th

    266

                    Special Days

    266

                                 Birthdays

    266

                                 Fathers Day/ Mothers Day

    267

     

     

                    Restraining Orders

    268

                                 Supervised Visitation

    269

                    General Visitation Rules

    269

                    Medical And Dental

    271

                    Emergency Situations

    271

                    Basic Conduct

    272

     

     

                    Parenting Classes

    275

                                 Counseling

    275

                                 Psychological Evaluation

    275

                                 Modifications/Supplements

    276

                    Residency Restrictions

    276

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    16.           REFORMS NEEDED

    277-285

                    Counseling Course Before Divorce

    279

                    No Divorce Until Children In School

    279

                    Children Out of Wedlock

    280

                    Parenting License

    280

                    Child Support To Children

    281

                    Custody To Dad If Mom On Welfare

    281

                    All Parents Must Pay

    282

                    School Records To Both Parents

    282

                    Adultery Penalized

    283

                    Lifestyle Restriction

    283

                    Child Rights Legislation

    284

                    Federal Custody Laws

    284

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    17.           FINDING THE RIGHT ATTORNEY

    286 – 300

                    Go Watch Attorney In Action

    288

                    Initial Consultation

    291

                    Attorney Fees & Costs

    292

                    Work Effectively With Your Attorney

    294

                    Create Good Attorney Relations

    295

                    Attorney – Not Therapist

    296

                    You Need Experienced Attorney

    297

                    Switching Attorneys 298

                   

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AREAS OF EXPERITSE
- Fathers' Rights
- Divorce
- Paternity
- Domestic Violence
- Custody/ Visitation
- Parent Alienation
- Child/ Spousal Support
- Property Division
- Modification of:
  - Existing Court Orders/
    Judgment
  - Guardships